Tuesday, March 26, 2013
Wednesday, March 20, 2013
Communication in Relationships
Many marriages and relationships today have difficulty with communication and wonder why it has broken down. Some believe that they are not spending enough time together but is that correct? Could it be that the relationship has become 'reactive'?
When we first come together in a relationship we are respectful and attentive to our partners. Over time we tend to pick at one another, we can react or over-react to what our partners say. We stop listening and then we stop communicating. Many couples can fear that if they do speak out they will be criticised or their partner will react in a way that causes conflict. Trust in one another is also lost because we become more secretive!
The first step in improving communication with your partner is to stop reacting to what they have to say. Listen without offering your advice or solution. Try to respect their right to an opinion and try not to tell each other how they should think, feel or behave. Try validating or acknowledging how they feel!
If the communication was good in the beginning then it is possible to restore it.
Simply it is about having Respect for one another!
Cheers
Lyn and Vicki
The Respect Challenge
When we first come together in a relationship we are respectful and attentive to our partners. Over time we tend to pick at one another, we can react or over-react to what our partners say. We stop listening and then we stop communicating. Many couples can fear that if they do speak out they will be criticised or their partner will react in a way that causes conflict. Trust in one another is also lost because we become more secretive!
The first step in improving communication with your partner is to stop reacting to what they have to say. Listen without offering your advice or solution. Try to respect their right to an opinion and try not to tell each other how they should think, feel or behave. Try validating or acknowledging how they feel!
If the communication was good in the beginning then it is possible to restore it.
Simply it is about having Respect for one another!
Cheers
Lyn and Vicki
The Respect Challenge
Tuesday, March 19, 2013
Thursday, March 14, 2013
Wednesday, March 13, 2013
Controlling Others
Why is it that so many people believe they know what is best
for another and then try to ‘control’ that person by way of manipulation or guilt.
This is, in fact, abusive behaviour!
Many marriages and relationships operate this way. Many
attempt to control others as a way to ensure their own happiness. Does this
work? No, it undermines the
relationship, it is hurtful and it destroys trust! Controlling behaviour in any relationship
whether it is in a marriage, a parent/child relationship or with a work
colleague can create havoc in people’s lives.
Today many people are feeling unhappy and can often feel
like something is ‘missing’ in their lives.
Could it be that what is missing is Respect? What if we tried restoring the importance of
RESPECT in all our relationships? Try to
keep in mind that if we want to be respected by our partner or our children, we
need to give that respect to them! We do
not demand it, nor do we earn it and we certainly do not place conditions on
Respect…….we ‘model’ Respect by being Respectful!
Experts have many remedies for improving relationships or
parenting and yet the solution is so simple….Restoring the importance of
Respect is the answer. ‘It begins with
us’
Cheers
Lyn and Vicki
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