Bullying

Bullying is in the news once again. The latest being that Clubs NSW Industry wants to refuse employment to any person under the age of 22 who has engaged in bullying throughout their school years. They intend to search children's confidential school records to determine whether their job application will be accepted or denied. If the applicant refuses to permit the search their application will not be accepted.

While we are not condoning bullying in any way, this is not the answer!

What happens to the victim who retaliates against the bully after relentless abuse and is then mistakenly determined as being the bully?

We have written a Letter to the Editor of several newspapers and have posted it below. Please feel free to tell us your story.

We have taken this action because we believe it all comes back to Respect. The Little Book of Respect will provide valuable insight into Bullying in Schools and Workplace Bullying.

LETTER TO THE EDITOR

WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN CLUBS NSW EMPLOYMENT SCHEME AND BEING A BULLY………….NOTHING!

What is the definition of a bully?

“A persecutor, a tyrant, an oppressor, to threaten, to enforce

Bullying is a form of aggressive behaviour manifested by the use of force or coercion to affect others”

Dear Parents

I am a Counsellor, my name is Lyn Parker and I work with both bullies and the victims of bullying nearly every day.

I have a program that works effectively for the bullies and, more importantly, the victims and I have been absolutely horrified by the latest news of Clubs NSW employment scheme to refuse employment to anyone who, according to their school records, was a known bully.  

BULLYING IS NOT ON!  Absolutely and Positively!

I am aware that many parents and victims are ANGRY and want to see the bully punished because they rarely face consequences for their actions, BUT this is not the answer. If your child or anyone else retaliates against the bully, they appear to be the one who gets into trouble. How many times have we heard these stories or we have experienced this firsthand. So will the victim’s future career options be affected because they retaliated?

As parents we need to STAND UP and REVOLT against this new course of action! Why do teachers or Club NSW have the right to determine your children’s future? We cannot allow our children’s privacy or rights to be invaded!  

When Clubs NSW enters schools to “warn” children about their job prospects…….WHO is bullying or threatening WHO?

Clubs NSW are failing to recognise the Laws in this country, the laws that protect our Juveniles.  At the age of 18 all or any criminal records are sealed or expunged. This is done so it does not impinge on the child’s ability to gain employment in the future yet, Clubs NSW believe they are privy to confidential school records.

Clubs NSW also needs to be aware of the anti-discrimination laws in this country.

If Clubs NSW wants to give back to society perhaps they could bring awareness and understanding to our youth of the dangers and risks of alcohol abuse and problem gambling!

Clubs NSW, you have this wrong!

There is an answer to this mounting problem.

If you or anyone you know is experiencing bullying either at school or at work please contact Lyn Parker at lynparker11@bigpond.com for more information.