Many marriages and relationships today have difficulty with communication and wonder why it has broken down. Some believe that they are not spending enough time together but is that correct? Could it be that the relationship has become 'reactive'?
When we first come together in a relationship we are respectful and attentive to our partners. Over time we tend to pick at one another, we can react or over-react to what our partners say. We stop listening and then we stop communicating. Many couples can fear that if they do speak out they will be criticised or their partner will react in a way that causes conflict. Trust in one another is also lost because we become more secretive!
The first step in improving communication with your partner is to stop reacting to what they have to say. Listen without offering your advice or solution. Try to respect their right to an opinion and try not to tell each other how they should think, feel or behave. Try validating or acknowledging how they feel!
If the communication was good in the beginning then it is possible to restore it.
Simply it is about having Respect for one another!
Cheers
Lyn and Vicki
The Respect Challenge
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