While we are not condoning bullying in any way, this is not the answer!
What happens to the victim who retaliates against the bully after relentless abuse and is then mistakenly determined as being the bully?
We have written a Letter to the Editor of several newspapers and have posted it below. Please feel free to tell us your story.
We have taken this action because we believe it all comes back to Respect. The Little Book of Respect will provide valuable insight into Bullying in Schools and Workplace Bullying.
LETTER TO THE EDITOR
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN CLUBS NSW
EMPLOYMENT SCHEME AND BEING A BULLY………….NOTHING!
What is the definition of a bully?
“A persecutor, a tyrant, an oppressor,
to threaten, to enforce
Bullying is a form of aggressive behaviour
manifested by the use of force or coercion to affect others”
Dear Parents
I am a Counsellor, my name is Lyn Parker and I work
with both bullies and the victims of bullying nearly every day.
I have a program that works effectively for the bullies
and, more importantly, the victims and I have been absolutely horrified by the
latest news of Clubs NSW employment scheme to refuse employment to anyone who,
according to their school records, was a known bully.
BULLYING IS NOT ON!
Absolutely and Positively!
I am aware that many parents and victims are ANGRY and
want to see the bully punished because they rarely face consequences for their
actions, BUT this is not the answer. If your child or anyone else retaliates
against the bully, they appear to be the one who gets into trouble. How many
times have we heard these stories or we have experienced this
firsthand. So will the victim’s future career options be affected because they
retaliated?
As parents we need to STAND UP and REVOLT against this
new course of action! Why do teachers or Club NSW have the right to determine
your children’s future? We cannot allow our children’s privacy or rights to be
invaded!
When Clubs NSW enters schools to “warn” children about
their job prospects…….WHO is bullying or threatening WHO?
Clubs NSW are failing to recognise the Laws in this
country, the laws that protect our Juveniles.
At the age of 18 all or any criminal records are sealed or expunged.
This is done so it does not impinge on the child’s ability to gain employment
in the future yet, Clubs NSW believe they are privy to confidential school records.
Clubs NSW also needs to be aware of the anti-discrimination
laws in this country.
If Clubs NSW wants to give back to society perhaps
they could bring awareness and understanding to our youth of the dangers and
risks of alcohol abuse and problem gambling!
Clubs NSW, you have this wrong!
There is an answer to this mounting problem.
If you
or anyone you know is experiencing bullying either at school or at work please
contact Lyn Parker at lynparker11@bigpond.com for
more information.
